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2STRESSED  

Aidpage Open Letter: GODS NOT GOING TO PUT MORE ON ME THAN I CAN BARE!!!!

To the attention of:

Barack Obama, US President;
Jerry Brown, Governor of California;
US Senators from California: Barbara Boxer, Dianne Feinstein;
US Representatives from California: Adam B. Schiff, Anna G. Eshoo, Barbara Lee, Bob Filner, Brad Sherman, Brian P. Bilbray, Dana Rohrabacher, Daniel E. Lungren, Darrell E. Issa, David Dreier, Dennis A. Cardoza, Devin Nunes, Doris O. Matsui, Duncan Hunter, Edward R. Royce, Elton Gallegly, Fortney Pete Stark, Gary G. Miller, George Miller, Grace F. Napolitano, Henry A. Waxman, Howard L. Berman, Howard P. "Buck" McKeon, Jackie Speier, Jane Harman, Jeff Denham, Jerry Lewis, Jerry McNerney, Jim Costa, Joe Baca, John Campbell, John Garamendi, Judy Chu, Karen Bass, Ken Calvert, Kevin McCarthy, Laura Richardson, Linda T. Sanchez, Lois Capps, Loretta Sanchez, Lucille Roybal-Allard, Lynn C. Woolsey, Mary Bono Mack, Maxine Waters, Michael M. Honda, Mike Thompson, Nancy Pelosi, Sam Farr, Susan A. Davis, Tom McClintock, Wally Herger, Xavier Becerra, Zoe Lofgren;
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Hello everyone, my name is Jonett and I am a single parent of two beautiful children. My God said he would put no more on me than I can bare. I beleive that he entended for me to bare it for as long as I have. I had been on my job five long years and three of them I had endored harassment emotional distress each day feeling terrorized frightened. Reporting behaviors to Management, only to see that Management condones the behaviors. Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut Iv'e had police sent to my house claiming that I had stolen from the company (someone told my employer this). most recent Police were sent to my house stating that I had made a terrioist threat in regards to my Supervisor once again (someone told them this). I was taken off of work on July 14th, 2011 and never was able to return. First it would only last through the investigation. I have yet to here the outcome of the investigation. It all came down to someone told them that I left work early, I was given a option either I resign or if they terminate me that with the added stipulations that I would not qualfy for un-employment. So you see here I am trying to go through the chain of cammand to assist me with the harassment and the hostile work environment and it caused me to lose my job. I guess its true what they say never take on management. Here I am no income I havent paid rent in a few month my car note is due again as well as another month for rent. Oh let me not leave out the fact the I just recently was released from the hospital August 3rd to be exact. I have Kidney issues, issue that put me in stable condition in the matter of minutes one minute I was waiting for my doctors appointment in her office the next minute the emergancy transport was coming to get me. I still have this issue but I couldn't stay in the hospital for one I couldn't afford the medical bill and second I couldn't leave my daughter at home another night alone. My daughter and I are all we have. For me to be at a point where I see no means of me preventing us from being put out on the streets no means of storing our belongings no means of putting food on the table. I didn't quilify for public assistance because of my final check from my employer came this month which went to back rent so I have to wait until next month and re-apply. By then I wont have a address a car. I dont understand it who better quilfy than a person who has been paying taxes faithfully for the passed 18 years a person who has come upon some hard time such as I. Im not asking for a hand out Im asking for a hand up. I am not a lazy person and I have never tried to sit around and do nothing as a matter of fact I just recently earned my Bachelors Degree and yes I was working five days a week and was going to school on the weekends. Not to toot my own horn but I also made the Deans List. I am what I strive to be and I wil be what I strive to become. Just there are sometimes we (single parents) may need that hand up. This is why many refuse to strive for that dream because of what can happen in between. the fear of losing the fear of not have. I was very angry for what my Supervisor has put me through. Her actions had a impact on not just me but my daughter My Supervisor put us in the dark for five long days, because of her errors on my timesheet. She was gone on vaction not once did anyone from management acknowledge that there was an error not until after she came back. Well I do thank you for letting me vent. I'm HURTING HURTING BAD I LOST MY JOB MY RETIREMENT MY SECURITY AT LEAST IF NOTHING ELSE I KNEW I WOULD BE ABLE TO LEAVE MY CHILDREN SOMETHING WHEN I EXPIRED LOST THAT TOO. GOD SAID HE WOULD PUT NO MORE ON ME THAN I CAN BARE AMEN! 

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NikaNika72  

About NikaNika72

Hello everyone I'm NikaNika and im new to this site and just here to find out more information for helping out others in their times of needs, if it is just an ear to listen,links to find that something you are needing help with or just a friend. I have been struggling myself. I went from being homeless(living at a Rest-Stop in the Great North West in the middle of winter pan-handling) to moving to Upstate NY. If it wasn't for great people to help me along the way i dont think i would be here today writing this. Yes im low-income cant help that but i can help offer something alot of people take for granted, a caring heart that will by all means try to help someone else who is down on their luck! I to was looking for a hand up not a hand out!

I can help others by offering links to resources.......so if you need a HAND UP from the troubles you have now take PRIDE in yourself and JUST ASK!

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momonamission  

HAND UP not HAND OUT



 I believe in a hand up and not a hand out. Please help me achieve my dream of helping other women overcome lifes obstacles.

 

I am a single mother of two girls.  I am currently in what feels like a no win situation and after countless hours scouring the net for help, I’ve come to the conclusion that there just isn’t anything out there for a woman in my situation. I am 29 and a survivor of domestic violence and addiction. While the last few years have been life altering, I’ve hit a roadblock and it seems like there is no way out. I have taken baby steps since getting sober 3 years ago which has led to some very wonderful accomplishments like going back to school 3 nights a week and receiving my GED, getting my driver’s license back, quitting smoking, earning the trust back from my family and friends who’s bridges I had burned (still working on the parents;), and last but certainly not least giving my children the life they deserve and the mother I knew I could be. All this has taken a lot of patience. I wasn’t someone who was lucky enough to have family support. The day my father dropped me off at rehab he looked at me in the eyes and said “Only a failure goes to rehab. If you really wanted to change you would just stop doing drugs!” I still went and unfortunately had to go home to an unsupportive family. My father and mother took my girls and me in when I was 22 after a terribly abusive relationship that finally ended with me lying in a hospital bed with broken ribs, jaw, and concussion. I’m surprised it didn’t kill me honestly, but we won’t get into that because I’m sure you already have an idea of what I went through. I am grateful to my parents for taking me in and being there for my girls. I don’t have any idea what I would have done had they not been there for them. The reason I say them is because they have made it clear that is the only reason they have done anything. I just wish there was something I could do to show them how much Ive changed. Every time I make what seems to be a huge step in the right direction they remind me of my age and how other women my age have accomplished so much more.

Here is my current problem. I am STUCK and it seems as though there is no way out. After the research I have done online I’ve come to the realization that my parents are showing signs of narcissism that has recently gotten so bad that my father became physical by pushing me down in front of my daughter. I had flashbacks of my earlier abusive relationship and quickly realized I have to get out of this. I feel as though my every move is controlled. I have no car and no job which is a real downer on my self esteem. Honestly, I feel like I’m totally alone. My parents not only resent me but I’m pretty sure they have lost all love they had for me. That is if they ever loved me at all. It’s always been a hostile home to say the least.
I’m not on a bus line due to living in the country so there is no way for me to get to school or work. When I mention ways to better my life my parents tell me I’m being selfish and that single mothers like me made our beds and now we should have to lie in them. I cry daily and dream of a life being able to choose what I want to do or go where I want to go. With all this free time on my hands and a broken leg that resulted in surgery from a fall 2 months ago I’ve had plenty of time to Google in search for a hand up and not a hand out for women like me. This has turned up little possibilities. I would love to find a foundation or organization that would help me become independent and on the right road toward success while I in turn offer my time to help with whatever they may need volunteers to do. Id love to help women who are going through what I went through. I could help them overcome the fear and anxiety associate with addiction. I could also show women that they don’t deserve to be abused and it is possible to break the cycle. This doesn’t seem like such a farfetched idea to me and it would give women a sense of accomplishment if they learned to volunteer and not just receive a handout. Thanks for reading and I look forward to ideas.

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dozzerbeast  

About dozzerbeast

Well I'll get straight to it. I'm a father of 5 (15yr old/12yr old/ 7yr old triplets) all from my first marriage. The two oldest ( my boys ) live with me. My Triplet girls live with their mother. I have moved the boys to an awsome school. But the city in which we live in was right at what I could afford. But now I have lost almost all my work. I'm a car electronics installer ( ie.. remote starts/alarms/keyless entry/audio/video/fix power windows and locks). I have done lots of different work over the years and have been one of the top or the top at my field. But I'm just at a lose right now. My utility's are about to be shut off, My rent is past due for April. I just don't know where to turn. I still pay child support for my kids even though the two boys live with me. I have not had the funds to get the custody signed over even though my ex is willing to sign them over. At which time then I could get some kind of assistance. but right now since they appear to still be under her custody. I can't receive anything  to where the boys will figure in. I have never been one to ask for help. I'm always the one to give everything I have to help others. But as it stands now I have no choice. This is not for me I could live on the streets doing whatever it takes to survive ,  I'm  just not willing to let my sons go through that. I've been through Hell and back with many different things in my life and very little scares me. But the prospect of my kids suffering freightens the hell out of me. To top off everything else my fiance' called me today to tell me she took a test and it came back positive. So now it looks like I have new one on the way. Before you get the wrong Idea , yes we use protection as with everythings else nothing is flawless. I'm 35 yrs old. I have tried to do nothing but right by my kids. To have them look at me and offer to sell their belongings to help to pay the bills just kills me. I'm not asking someone to take care of us. Just really need a hand up right now not a hand out. Thank you in advance( if for nothing else then for taking the time to read this).

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retalynn  

In Need

I am looking for a helping hand up.  I have a 1500.00 car payment to make before my car is taken away. I have two children and our rent is 1 month behind. I need 700.00 before next month.  I do not desire to be rich just to provide for my family.  I am saved and I know the Lord will make away.   If you are apart of our process to an abundant life on earth, please make yourself known.  I would like help not a hand out but a hand up.  Thank you.
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Brown Sugar  

Going down for the last time...

All we need is a hand up....I lost my job about three months ago and my husband is pulling all the weight, and it is a lot.  He needs a truck loan but at this point we just need to catch up our mortgage.  Things have been bad for awhile and we are trying to fix our credit with a debt settlement company but at the moment we are in trouble.  Can anyone please help us?  My husband drives 18 wheeelers and if he could get another truck we could pull our selves out of this muck.
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myangelles  

Single Mother of Two

Hi,

I have two children and I would like to go back to school.  I don't have much money to start with but have looked into grants and scholarships. Due to me not knowing what a "technical school" really was I was charged several thousand dollars in loans! "I'm 18 and I know what I am doing", got me in trouble when I cared for my mother and grandmother during the ups and downs  of aplastic anemia and strokes. I am looking to start over and be self reliant. I was wondering if anyone knew of how to discharge the student loans or help me get financial aid even though my student loans are in default. If you have a nasty remark about what I was doing while all this was happening.....please note that I wouldn't take back the past 9 years for anything......my mother and grandparents raised me and did a darn good job...never arrested....never in jail! I need a hand up now that I am alone.......Thanks for any information in advance!

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